is still upset about the way her friendship with former BFF came to an end.
“I’ve really had one adult friendship with a woman that blew up in my face,” Cavallari, 37, stated on the Tuesday, November 19, episode of her “Let’s Be Honest” podcast. “I felt as though one of my best friends at the time, who was on the Very Cavallari show, I don’t think she ever had an affair with my ex-husband []. But the viewers of the show, season 2, were accusing them of having an affair.”
Cavallari claimed that Henderson, 42, added “fuel to the fire” by capitalizing on the affair rumors, which made her “uncomfortable.” She explained: “I wrote her an email — you know it’s serious when it’s an email — and I was very careful about just saying, ‘Hey, here’s how your actions made me feel.’ I in no shape or form attacked or blamed [her]. It was just, ‘This is how I feel.’ And it blew up in my face.”
For Cavallari, Henderson’s alleged reaction to the email marked a changing point in their friendship. “My thing with friends is if we can’t have a conversation, like, ‘These are my feelings.’ And if you can’t respect my feelings and basically just turn it around on me, I can’t do anything with that,” she told listeners, adding that she would have reacted differently if her and Henderson’s roles were switched.
“When people come at it from the defense, I’m like, ‘How can you argue my emotion? You can’t argue [with] someone’s emotions. This is how you made me feel. I’m not wrong for that,’” she continued. “So, my point being, it’s really sad when adult women can’t meet you in the middle like that and have your back and do something that disrespects you and make you feel really s—-y But it happens.”
Cavallari said the best thing for her was to move on. “Instead of being so down about it, it’s like, ‘OK, well, you know what? ‘I enjoyed the years that we had together. I’ve learned a lot from this relationship, as well,’ and you have to just let it go and you have to just move on from it, unfortunately, and be thankful for the time that you had together,” she said.
Fans of Very Cavallari may recall Cavallari speaking about her and Henderson’s falling out over the false affair rumors during the season 3 premiere of Very Cavallari in January 2020. “It wasn’t the actual accusations of them having an affair that made me upset, it was how Kelly went about it,” she said during the episode, criticizing Henderson for not publicly denying the speculation and accusing her of user Cutler, 41, for “her own personal gain.”
A source exclusively confirmed to Us Weekly in April 2020 that Cavallari and Cutler had filed for divorce after seven years of marriage. The exes finalized their split in June 2022.
Henderson, for her part, confirmed she and Cutler never had an affair and later accused Cavallari of playing up the drama for a Very Cavallari story line. “I think that’s interesting that after she said all of the stuff that she said about me on national television and things that were not true, that she expected me to reach out. At that point, I felt extremely betrayed and not like we were friends,” she said during an October 2020 appearance on The Domenick Nati Show.
She added: “I probably didn’t reach out either because I was getting so blown up by tabloids because of what she put in people’s minds about an affair that was not ever true, nor did it happen. So yeah, I wasn’t very happy with her. It didn’t feel like the right thing for me to reach out. I was not in a place to do that.”
