Teddi Mellencamp, Edwin Arroyave Were in Therapy 'For Years' Before Split

was in a rocky place with her estranged husband, , before she filed for divorce.

“It was a long time coming and they have been up and down for the last seven-plus years,” a source close to The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills alum, 43, exclusively tells Us Weekly. “This isn’t the first time Teddi has wanted a divorce, and it has been an ongoing conversation between them for years.”

The insider notes that the now-exes “have been in therapy over the years and make it work,” adding, “They have had some really high highs and low lows over the course of their marriage.” Ultimately, “They have agreed they are better as co-parents and can be amicable moving forward,” the source states.

Mellencamp announced via Instagram on Saturday, November 2, that she had made the “difficult decision to file for divorce” from Arroyave, 47, after 13 years of marriage. “My priority is my children and ensuring that every care is taken with their privacy and wellbeing throughout this new chapter.”

Related: 'RHOBH' Alum Teddi Mellencamp and Edwin Arroyave's Relationship TimelineTeddi Mellencamp and Edwin Arroyave were married for 13 years before they separated. The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills alum, who is one of the children of singer John Mellencamp, first met Arroyave in a Hollywood nightclub in 2009. “I was tricked a little bit because when I first saw Edwin, he had a beanie […]

She continued: “Making a public statement is not something I wanted to do but in an effort to protect my family from undue speculation and rumors, I felt being open, honest and vulnerable was the best path forward.”

Mellencamp and Arroyave wed in 2011 and share kids Slate, 12, Cruz, 10, and Dove, 4. Arroyave welcomed his eldest daughter, Isabella, during a previous marriage. Arroyave praised his now-ex in a sweet Instagram post just one week before she announced she had filed for divorce..

Teddi Mellencamp and Edwin Arroyave David Livingston/Getty Images

“I always say life and pain are inseparable. And to see @teddimellencamp embrace her pain and use it for the greater good again last night as she emceed the @curemelanoma gala, was a beautiful reminder of what she is capable of,” he wrote alongside pics of himself and Mellencamp — who has been open about her struggles with skin cancer — at the Cure Melanoma Gala in New York City on October 25. “Her story has already saved lives. And I couldn’t be prouder that she will continue to save more. Love you, Teds. So much so that I missed the Rams game to be there 🤣).”

Mellencamp’s divorce docs, filed on Friday, November 1, and obtained by Us, revealed that the two had split before attending the NYC event — their date of separation was listed as October 20.

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Arroyave has yet to publicly address the divorce, but has since shared a pic of himself taking the former couple’s kids to church. He has also posted various Bible verses about parenthood via his Instagram Story.

Mellencamp, meanwhile, was spotted wearing her wedding ring just hours after posting her divorce announcement online. She addressed the breakup on the Tuesday, November 5, episode of her and ’s “Two Ts in a Pod” podcast, stating, “I am doing alright.”

Focusing on the future, she went on to state: “I know that I am gonna keep working on feeling my best so that I can show up the best for my kids and my life and my work. I think that’s the biggest thing for me right now.”

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